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Is Complete Honesty Really Needed In Relationships?


You could be guilty of giving out too much information in a relationship, and there are indeed things better left unsaid.
Everyone I know wants honesty in their relationships, of course. I want my partner to be honest with me, too.
Honesty in this context is synonymous to transparency and openness.
But here’s the deal: to what extent should honesty go? How much of it is really needed to keep your relationship going?
Of course, it’s easy to say absolute, total and other words depicting that partners should basically tell each other every thing from the day they were born till when they met.
But as Tola, 29, says, “I don’t think complete honesty in relationships is needed, or even advisable.
“So let’s say I go out to a club and run into an ex who kisses me but I do not reciprocate and actually told him off.
“Do you expect me to go tell my boyfriend that?
How far should forgiveness go in a relationship?

“He just does not need to know. Telling him would create images in his head. Sometimes, it’s just good to let sleeping dogs lie.”

Emem, 27, says: “I can’t even tell my boyfriend or partner my real body count.
“He does not need to know, and what he does not know won’t necessarily kill him. I’m sure you know that sometimes, ignorance is actually bliss.”
“Telling him I have had s*x with other people before him should be enough.”
And it’s true; sometimes there are some things in your past and even in the present your partner does not need to know. Opening up to them will actually cause problems and cast shadows on the trust they already have for you.
But having said that, it needs to be pointed out that a great deal of honesty in relationships is still required.
Money undeniably brings a level of happiness and satisfaction

Everything that directly affects the relationship, everything that will obviously impact a person’s decision to either be with you or not… you need to open up to him or her about it, especially if the relationship is a serious one that’ll most likely head somewhere.
A previous abortion, a child from a previous relationship,an ex that’s relentlessly bugging you, bad debts etc.
Things like this have direct effects on the trust your partner has for you, and refusing to disclose these things to your partner is not right.
You’ll need to use your discretion and good judgement to decide what to tell and what to leave out.
But one thing seems certain: there are indeed things better left unsaid in a relationship.

source: Pulse

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